Sunday January 2, 2011
Just like last year, I've succumbed to the top list frenzy, and wanted to see what blog posts caught your fancy in 2010. An interesting mix, not surprisingly focused heavily on sex-related relationship questions:
Want your dating question to be featured here in 2011? Feel free to ask any questions in the comments, share your thoughts in the dating forum, or ask a dating question privately.
Tuesday December 28, 2010
Do you have any dating-related New Years resolutions this year? I've solicited singles, couples and experts for their views and ideas, creating two New Years resolution lists that I think will be helpful to a lot of readers:
A couple of the suggestions - such as 39-year-old Megan Reese's of creating a 'Man Plan' for her dating life - are extensive yet focused, while others are simple shifts in one's worldview to improve either the relationships we are attracting, or those we already have. And then there is a whole other level of New Years resolution, and I've found one that is so above and beyond the norm (but fascinating!) that it deserved more than just a quick quip in an article.
The first comes from best selling authors and challenge creators Pastor Kerry Shook and his wife Chris. Their book, One Month to Live, suggest that those wanting a dramatic shift in their lives just need to think about what they'd do if they only had thirty days left. From one of their press releases:
"Arguably, resolutions fail because there's no sense of urgency. With a whole year ahead to reach the goal, it's easy to relegate it to the back burner or forget about it altogether. Indeed, in one study nearly 40 percent of respondents cite having too many other things to do as the reason for breaking their resolutions. But what if instead of just making resolutions you acted as if you had only 30 days to live and to really make a difference in your life?"
What about you? Have you ever gone to extreme lengths to find a date? Would you? Have you resolved to improve about your dating life or relationship for 2011?
Thursday December 23, 2010
"Energy flows where attention goes."
A Huna saying that has found a new set of followers through the book, "The Secret", this is what was emblazoned on a bookmark I received for Christmas a few years back from a dear friend. And although I've heard the phrase before, for some reason this time I can't get it out of my head.
Like many singles, I too get stuck sometimes thinking about the "nts" in my dating life. Some of the ones I've heard recently from readers:
- I don't feel attractive/skinny/smart enough;
- Why couldn't s/he have given me a chance/been faithful/trusted me;
- I'll never find a date/love/satisfaction in a relationship...
You get my jist. We all have our 'nts', and some are a bit more challenging than others. But what if we were to ignore those 'nts', just for a couple of days, and focus instead on what we want to bring into our lives, essentially attracting the kind of energy/relationship we're looking for?
About.com's Guide to Holistic Healing has written a lovely article about Attracting Positives, using a technique that focuses on surrounding yourself with positive images, whether they be physical, mental or spiritual manifestations. I think I'll create my own little Book of Positives, kind of like the one in Queen Latifah's movie, Last Holiday as my gift to myself these next few days. My pre- New Years' resolution, if you will.
What about you? How do you stay positive when dating, or looking for love? What techniques have worked for you?
More on this topic: Relationship Expectations
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Wednesday December 22, 2010
A small study from Revetro Gadgetology found that younger dating couples check their partner's cellphones without anyone's knowledge. Why? For traces of cheating, lying or sexting, according to the survey. The hard data:
- Under 25 and dating couples have the highest incidence of both checking cell phones without their partner's knowledge (38%) and finding evidence to prove the accusations (10%);
- Married couples have the lowest incidence of checking cell phones (36%) and discovering infidelity from said searches (3%);
- Men and women check each other's cell phones without consent about the same amount (30% and 33% respectively).
So what about you? When dating someone, is it okay to check their cell phone's history for evidence of cheating? What if you find evidence? Why or why not?
Related: The Signs of Cheating, Would You Tell Your Partner You Cheated?
