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You can't compromise or negotiate these harmful behaviors away. You can't rationalize the behaviors as this is "just the way I am." In order to save your marriage, these harmful behaviors must stop.

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Have Lunch With Your Spouse

Wednesday April 27, 2011
If you are looking for a way to have a date each week with your spouse, consider meeting for lunch. Lunch dates generally aren't as expensive as going out to dinner, and if your kids are in school, getting together at lunch can solve the problem of having to pay for a baby sitter.

Poll: How Often Do You and Your Spouse Date One Another? Vote

Kissing Cousins

Monday April 25, 2011
Back in 2006, 20/20 did an investigative report on cousins marrying one another. According to the report, cousins are allowed to legally marry in 26 states in the United States. Additionally, such marriages are more common in European and Middle Eastern countries. "In some Middle Eastern countries, almost half of all marriages are to cousins."
"And consider this: Albert Einstein's parents were cousins, and he married his cousin, too. FDR and Eleanor Roosevelt were cousins, so were Prince Albert and Queen Victoria and former New York City Mayor Rudolph Giuliani was briefly married to a second cousin."

Although many people are still concerned about the genetic risks cousin marriages supposedly take, a new study by National Society of Genetic Counselors states that the genetic risks are much less than previously thought.

"Dr. Bittles, who is working on an update of the 2002 study, and other researchers argue that laws against marriage between cousins were rooted in myth and moral objections, and that they amounted to genetic discrimination akin to eugenics or forced sterilization. People with severe disorders like Huntington's disease, who have a 50 percent chance of passing it on to their offspring, are not barred from marrying because of the risk of genetic defects, he said, so cousins should not be, either."
Source: Sarah Kershaw. "Shaking Off the Shame." NYTimes.com. 11/25/2009.

Even with the new scientific studies regarding cousin marriages, cousin marriages are often not readily accepted by family members and some churches. Scott P. Richert explains: "Today, second-cousin marriages are allowed, and, under some circumstances, a dispensation can be obtained to allow a first-cousin marriage. The [Catholic] Church still discourages such marriages, however."

Why It is Not a Good Idea for Teens to Marry

Friday April 22, 2011
Studies of teen brains provide another reason why teens shouldn't marry. Apparently, teens don't think with the rational portion of their brains.

If this theory is correct, should teens be prevented from making life changing decisions such as getting married and serving in the military?

Related: Teen Marriage License Laws

Celebrate Earth Day as a Couple

Thursday April 21, 2011
If you want to conserve natural resources, save money, and find more ways to spend time together as a couple, consider these suggestions on ways to celebrate Earth Day together.

Related: Reasons to Walk Together | Use Public Transportation | Buy Green Power

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