October 19, 2011 1:25 PM

NY father kills family, then self, police say

In this Feb. 26, 2010 Friedlander family photo provided by the Lewisboro Ledger/Hersam Acorn Newspapers on Oct. 19, 2011, Gregory and Molly Friedlander play in the snow at their home in Cross River, N.Y. (AP Photo/Sam Friedlander/Lewisboro Ledger/Hersam Acorn Newspapers)

(AP) 

CROSS RIVER, N.Y. - A man in the middle of a divorce fatally shot his two children and bludgeoned his wife before killing himself in their sprawling home in an affluent suburb, police said Wednesday.

The bodies of Amy and Sam Friedlander and their children, 8-year-old Gregory and 10-year-old Molly, were discovered Tuesday afternoon in Cross River, north of New York City.

State police Maj. Michael Kopy said the bloodshed occurred Monday night into Tuesday morning.

The children were found in their rooms, covered with bedspreads; a piece of furniture was on the floor next to their mother's body. Police recovered the shotgun the father used; his body was found in the basement.

Police had been alerted by a business partner who was worried because she knew about the divorce and hadn't heard from Amy Friedlander, Kopy said.

Kopy did not give the business partner's name. However, Deborah Bernstein posted a notice on the website of John Jay Prep, an academic and college test prep tutoring service.

"We are deeply saddened by the tragic loss of Amy Friedlander and her children Molly and Gregory," it said. "Amy was not only a business partner but a personal friend and loving mother. She will be truly missed by us and the community at large."

On Wednesday, police parked their vehicles in front of the Friedlanders' home and challenged anyone who tried to linger; crime-scene tape was stretched across the driveway.

The Journal News said a May 2000 wedding announcement in The New York Times had described Amy Friedlander as a vice president for Chase Manhattan Bank. The wedding announcement said her husband was an associate counsel of the National Association of Insurance Commissioners in Manhattan.

The neighborhood, called Michelle Estates, was developed by financier Carl Icahn and has homes valued at around $800,000 to $1 million, the Journal News reported.

A small "For Sale" sign stands at the curb in front of the Friedlanders' home, which is listed for $799,000. It's located on a long, looping road that features some even larger houses on elegantly landscaped properties. But it's clearly a family neighborhood: Some residents have decorated for Halloween, with pumpkins on their porches and fake spider webs across the shrubs.

One neighbor' house has a sign taped to the storm door, with the request, "Please respect privacy."

The Lewisboro school district said the children attended its elementary school.

Lewisboro Police Chief Frank Secret said he knew of no reports of domestic violence.

"This is devastating in our community," he said. "This is something we are not used to."

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by formerusmcsgt1 October 19, 2011 5:45 PM EDT
Another selfish S.O.B. who decided that, since it wouldn't be his way, he'd murder everyone.

Obviously, one very sick individual.
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by tcaldie October 19, 2011 5:19 PM EDT
I really am somewhat at a loss. I find it difficult to read or listen to the news anymore. It seems every time I do there is another child murdered for whatever reason. I just cannot rap my head around the idea that anyone finds this acceptable to do on any level. This includes the children who are literally bullied to death. May the Lord give peace to the rest of this family and hold these dear children in his arms in the peace that only He can give!
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by saturn05 October 19, 2011 4:02 PM EDT
I hate men who are cowards.
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by marine1957 October 19, 2011 2:29 PM EDT
My greatest sadness is about the unnecessary death of the children. That the husband did these horrendous killings seems to indicate that the wife was justified in getting the divorce to get away from him, but I am no psychiatrist. Sad. Tragic. Unexplainable. Wrong is never explainable.
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by PR_in_Alabama October 19, 2011 2:13 PM EDT
Tragic! The dude had some serious mental issues....
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by jt92202 October 19, 2011 2:12 PM EDT
I just don't understand why people do this, why they snap and cause harm to their children who they say they love so much! Why can't some people just walk away from bad marraiges and move on with their life? Why do some have to punish their ex's to the point that something like this happens? Not saying that the wife did anything in this story as there isn't any info showing that she did but it always seems to happen when someone wants control and they fight for that control! Women will use their children against the father and the father sinks further and further into the dark world of hatred for the ex wife. And then something like this happens, why? It's sad that children are brought into this world only to live in a home where the father and mother begin to hate each other, fight all the time and then someone snaps! I understand it's hard to deal with divorce and custody battles, been there done that but when I went through it I never kept my kids from their father. He knew he was welcome in my home anytime he wanted to see them and could take them any day of the week. I never took him to court for more money even when he got a job and could pay more. The money wasn't the issue, the issue was my children growing up to be adults with 2 parents that loved them and helped them grow to become well ajusted adults. I just don't understand people that put themselves and their ego's before their children!!

Again I have no idea if any of this is the reason for this but so often it's exactly why this happens! My condolences to the family and friends, I hope you can come to terms with this tragic end.
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