Please enroll together with your husband in a parenting class -- many YMCAs have them. You want this to be a joint experience for the two of you. You want to avoid sounding as if you are sending your husband alone to the dunce's corner, no matter how much he may belong there. I totally agree that your 19 month-old is doing what every toddler is programmed to do, that is imitating his parents, the most important people in his life. Your husband's overreaction to his son's sweet and charming behavior is crushing and confusing. Since this is a recurring problem, look with your husband at the Gesell Institute website which has lots of material about children's developmental stages and what to expect. I also will reiterate my recommendation of Haim Ginott's Between Parent and Child, a book that really helps a parent understand a child's mind and respond with compassion. You do not want to set up a dynamic in which you attack your husband's culture -- you married him knowing what it was, and presumably that he embraced some of the tenets. Instead you want to examine how some of these beliefs affect your family, and work together so that all three of you treat each other with gentleness and respect.