The 5 Different Stages of Falling in LoveWhen it comes to talking about doing the deed, my friends and I tend to dive right in. So when a gal pal admitted her sex life is at a complete stand-still, I asked why. Her response: “I asked [my man] the same thing, and he told me I don’t turn him on anymore because I ‘just lay there.’”
"You mean when he's on top?" I clarified.
"Yes."
"Are you wrapping your legs around him?"
"Yes."
"Making noise?"
"Yes."
"Moving your hips?"
"Yes. Fingers in his hair, whispering in his ear — the whole nine yards."
Umm, I don't know about you, but my friend and I are still seriously confused. What gymnast-like contortions, what made-for-porn moves does this guy expect when he's in the driver's seat?
Yet, in preparation for this post, I polled a few friends and was surprised to find that many of them have also been accused of "just laying there" during man-on-top sex. Most felt like they were enthusiastic participants until their S.O. dished out this especially unhelpful (and kind of hurtful) criticism.
It made me wonder, is this a common criticism among men? And where do their above-and-beyond expectations come from when you're on the bottom?
Have you ever been told you "just lay there" during sex? How did it make you feel? Did the guy ever delve deeper into what more he wanted?
